sa paniniwala ko kasi... yang mga words na yan, ideally binibitiwan lang ng mga taong SANE and HEALTHY (both in body, mind and spirit)

anyway... naiintindihan ko ang rewards ng diborsyo... pero para sakin ha, hindi nya pa naa-outweigh yung resulting damage to families and children's psyche

siguro nga, hindi yung diborsyo yung me kasalanan... siguro lang, karamihan eh kulang sa follow up :)

siguro nga, hindi yung diborsyo yung me kasalanan... siguro lang, karamihan eh kulang sa follow up :)

mec, at yung mga nag-aasawa na hindi nag-iisip :D

tama si mspartygirl. pero may times kasi na iba ang pakita ng tao pag hindi pa asawa. nakikilala mo lang naman kadalasan ang tao pag magkasama na kayo sa isang bahay. swerte na lang kung nagpaka-totoo yung asawa mo bago kayo nag-asawa.

sa palagay ko nakakasira din ng psyche ng bata ang makitang binubugbog at inaabuso ang nanay niya. most abusive husbands don't care if the kid can see it. either matu-trauma yung bata, or lalaki siyang iniisip na tama ang mang-bugbog ng babae.

amen to everything you said!

kaya din i wish divorce would become available for everyone, mayaman o mahirap. kasi right now, the ones with can't afford an annulment procedure are the ones left to suffer a lifetime of abuse. and probably why, mas maraming poor wives who are in prison for killing their husbands... cant blame them because it's their last and only way out.

bakit naging live-in ang usapan? hahaha! misis maldita, ikaw ba talaga yan? :D

mama mia...

gusto ko lang i-point out na d ako sang-ayon sa divorce... and as much as possible baka pwedeng gawan ng paraan before magpakasal para tried and tested ang samahan... naks.. nahawa na ata ako... <*wink! wink!*> read between the lines na lang (diba cata?)

hehehe...

hehe. ituro ba ko! sandali di pa nga ako nagpo post e!

Stupid post. And to think you're parents sent you to a catholic school or at least gave you a decent education.

And feminism? Lols! How many times do women have to realize that feminish is bullshit. It's just a backlash of some women with crappy heads thinking it to themselves that they should aspire to levels to that of men.

But all the crap aside.

You try to give arguments why divorce is acceptable, you try to do a selective process of the ins and outs. But you forget common sense and practical application girl. With a mind like that I hope you don't get your marriage squashed. Seriously you should rethink it deeply.

Marriage is a vow taken before God. Take note of the word BEFORE. Divorce brings nothing but ruin. You want proof?

Look to the west. More than half of the families there break within 10 years and after ten more years a mere fraction of those families remain intact. That's proof you can't deny and I don't know if you can think of some alibi to negate that. Divorce is evil. Christ said so himself. It brings nothing but ruin. You don't solve a problem by introducing a breaking it.

Every problem no matter how grave has a solution. There are some things in life that can never be solved with logic and reason only faith and belief. Going on the way out of a troubled marriage brings nothing but just a short cut to a problem which will affect not only you but also your children.

Kumbaga sa tagalog at gagamit ng konting common sense.

"Pwedeng hatiin ang inyong kasal at maghinwalay kau. Pero panu ang mga bata? Hahatiin din ba naten sila?"

Common sense really.

dear anonymous, thank you for taking the time to share your point of view with us. this is exactly what this forum is for, right? to be able to share our opinion, as well as voice our disagreement, if any.

as it is, i do not expect you to agree with everything that i said. if that is the way you feel ABOUT THE ISSUE OF DIVORCE, then i respect that. in fact, you and my husband share the same concern - the children. but, had you read my entry objectively, i did mention that i approve of divorce ONLY on grounds of domestic violence. my stand is the protection of the spouse and the children from all forms of violence, particularly if the source of this violence is the basic unit of society which is supposed to protect and love them. what family would we be talking about if a spouse is killed or the children are maimed and scarred for life?

you said i should look to the west for proof. but hey, i am from the west. i live in the US. and here, i have seen FIRST HAND how a successful divorce has affected families POSITIVELY.

but then again, i need not look too far. my own parents are the two loneliest, most emotionally battered people in the world - all because they stayed in a marriage for the sake of us, their kids. in the long run, they did nothing but cause each other pain and frustration, and these things greatly affected myself and my siblings. for instance, it took my husband to make Me trust in love and believe in marriage again. my siblings have yet to heal. and now that we are much older, my parents have decided to live apart and i have to tell you that i've never seen them happier, more free. and they are good friends, which they never were when they were married.

so you see, i did use common sense when i wrote this post. i also used an OPEN and MATURE mind when i formed my opinion. and, although i respect your view about the issue of divorce, i believe you could have done a better job of phrasing your criticism constructively.

God did not make the world in the shape of a box, so I believe we shouldn't live in a box. I believe He made the world a sphere, with no corners or boundaries, so that we can be free to think, to find out, and to decide how we can best enter His kingdom. in this sense, He has kept the driveway open for us - and so should you.

hi di ko alam gaano na katagal post na to. makasabat lang po.

for anonymous
i like what you said "Every problem no matter how grave has a solution".
but doesn't seem to work for me. I am in a crisis at moment that's why i ended up in this blog.
My marriage is in trouble and i really like to get a divorce but I am a catholic and brought up in a loving & conservative clan and no history of family separation so I am afraid that this will cause the family a wee bit of problems as well.
But things unbearable (I have experienced seeing the stars(ika nga) resulted to bruises. He's doing drugs and have other woman. He's even proud to say if di ko gusto pinaggagawa nia I am free to F*3k off. Buti wala pa kaming anak. His family is aware of this and I have mentioned to them I am thinking of divorce surprisingly they do support me. (lam nila gaano kalala situation)Even his family walang magawa ilan beses na rin sia nakausap.
Maybe curious nakakabasa bakit ako nagpakasal? FYI wala po lahat yan before tieng the knot.
This started when I was offered a job somewhere and weekends lang kami nagkikita (and maybe insecurities nia sa sarili nia na I have better career than him) Though something I do avoid to talk about dahil ayokong ma-insecure sia. Anyway its his idea rin na iaccept ko ang job coz will give us great future.

There might be a solution but the problem is, his willingness to change which he pointed out 'No Way ' will you tell me now will I just accept all of this?

anonymous2

Dear Anonymous 2 (dahil walang kwentang kausap si Anonymous 1)

I hope you find your way back to this post and read my comment.

I can really understand your concern about your family. When my marriage hit the pits, one of the reasons that kept me from packing my bags was dreading having to tell my family and friends - especially my dad. Not because of the drama, but because I know how deeply he will be hurt that I will have to go through separation and divorce and all that. After I handled my situation, my family and my best friend said the same thing - if we only knew what you were going through, we would have helped you packed your bags if that is what you wanted to do.

Because at the end of the day, our family loves us. What they will want for us is a better life. And above all happiness. I am quite sure your father, and your mother, and your sister, and brother, and best friend, and anyone who cares for you wouldn't want you to living the rest of your life with a man who tells you to fuck off.

You know what is right for you, and you know that you deserve better than how you are being treated now. For that I applaud you. So many people have spent so much love on others that they forgot to save some for themselves.

Anonymous 1, if you knew that your sister, your best friend, even a casual acquaintance is being treated the way you are suffering right now, what would you tell her? What do you think would be in the best for the mental and emotional well-being of that person?

Then give yourself the same advice, because as someone who is created in God's image, you know what you deserve.

Eto ay para na rin kay Anonymous 1 - marriage kamo is a vow before god. Sinadya kong hindi uppercase yan kasi hindi ko alam ko sino ang dios mo. Because my God does not tolerate His children, His creation, the ones created in His image to be treated badly, especially by people who also took the same vows. So I believe that when His child Anonymous 1, is being disrespected then I am sure my God wouldn't turn around and say, "Oh no you promised!"

The same way you gave MrsPartyGirl advice, eto naman ang sa yo - sana nga ay di ka maging miserable sa iyong marriage, so that you never have to face the situation where the only way to save your sanity is divorce. I am sure maloloka ka.