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| [ON COMMITMENT] |
| by [MrsPartyGirl] |
The big "C" word is all that stands between married and unmarried couples. For a lot of people, marriage has always been the ultimate test of commitment... the proverbial rock on the finger. Nowadays, though, marriage and commitment have become exclusive terms, one not necessarily compelling the other. How important is commitment in a marriage? What does it take to commit? After all, one person's fantasy wedding extravaganza may be another one's ball-and-chain nightmare.
The wives speak out :D |
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| Marriage Vows |
| by [ceztlavie] |
For us married couples, COMMITMENT is encompassed by the vows we made during our wedding day...
"Grant us, O Lord,
To be one heart and one soul,
From this day forward,
For better or for worse,
For richer or for poorer,
In sickness and in health,
Until death do us part."
Need I say more? |
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| Despite and in spite of |
| by [marie] |
First caught sight of each other in second grade... she in her green jumper uniform, he in is khaki shorts... Seeing each other almost every day for the next 9 years. 5 years being against each other as boy and girls are during that age. Then spending the next four years building a friendship that would last forever. One year spent seating next to each other; joking and laughing, consoling and caring.
In spite of the constancy ... he pursued her. Despite her looking at another direction, he persisted.
Separated at college, their love bloomed. People said they were too young. They could have moved on with other people in their new circles. But they held on.
Despite the objections, they stayed with each other. In spite of the changes, their love still bloomed.
Then off to the working world. She had to move abroad for work. It was easy to meet other people... to forget about the one who was a thousand miles away.
Despite the distance, they know they were still connected. In spite of the difficulties, the relationship was strong.
Nine years into the relationship, they decide to marry. Now for almost two years, they've been together.
Despite the longevity, things haven't been boring or monotonous. They still look forward to seeing each other at the end of the day. They still discover new things about each other.
In spite of the trials in life, they still persevere to keep the bond together. In spite of minor snags, they found a way to pick up the pieces and move on - TOGETHER.
Who would imagine that it would come this far. 21 years, from when they first met. You would think they'd be tired of each other. They are committed to stick to one another, to grow old together, to face life's challenges head on -- in the company of their best friend, their companion, the love of their life. |
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| Marriage = Commitment |
| by [apple] |
Marriage should always be equated to commitment, but commitment isn't only equated with marriage. My hubby and I have long been commited to each other, even way before our marriage. When we started our bf-gf relationship, I knew by then that we vowed to commit to each other. But it was on our wedding day that we sealed and signed a higher level of commitment, with God above as our witness. Commitment in marriage is in a higher form in a way that you have witnesses to attest, but then, it still boils down to the kind of commitment you two have from the very start. Marriage, or any other serious relationship, is a commitment to love and sacrifice for the goodness of BOTH of you. I emphasize "both" because commitment is not sacrificing everything for the sake of just your partner...I guess being "martyr" is the right term for that =). Both marriage & commitment has an end, you just have to know when to hold on and when to let go... |
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| commit or not? (wow, very singaporean! hehe) |
| by [simply me] |
The moment I moved in with my ex-boyfriend (yes EX, because he is now my husband), I know even without the sacrament of marriage, I have already committed myself. I wanted the relationship to work, so I committed myself. Even if it means,sacrificing some of the things I am used to.
A beautiful relationship/marriage, doesn't just bloom on its own...you have to be committed to make it work... to make it last...
But I don't believe that you need to get married to be committed. Believe me, some are married but they ain't committed to their husband or wife!Yaiks!!! It's not that I am anti-marriage, I just think that it's better to have a boyfriend who is committed to you, than to have a husband who's not! |
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| CIA - Commitment In Action |
| by [jen] |
J and I have been together for more than 7 years, this including the time that we were boyfriend-girlfriend. In those years that we've been together, we've never talked about what commitment means to us. I guess were more into the actions than the words.
Commitment is sticking to his bedside during an operation when you are deathly scared of hospitals. Commitment is picking her up in Alabang when you are already at home in Makati. Commitment are the hugs and kisses that you give to each other even when your nose is running or you smell like durian.
Commitment is making sure that your promise to love, trust and respect one another is shown in everything you do. |
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| MARRIAGE is a DECISION to COMMIT |
| by [Maver] |
Marriage, like love, is a DECISION--a decision to embrace your partner's strengths, as well as a decision to overlook faults and weaknesses. While not synonymous, for me, commitment is an important element, if not, THE essence of marriage. It is in the sacrament of matrimony that one chooses, promises and finally, commits to stand by his or her partner despite all odds, FOR LIFE. |
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| Commitment in our marriage |
| by [miuccia tarquin] |
We never really had the opportunity to discuss our views about commitment before deciding to take the plunge. Good thing though that with our current status in life (2 yrs of being together as an unmarried couple + 5 yrs of marriage) it's pretty much safe to assume that we are on the right path.
Commitment for me is sticking to the marriage even if at times you want to take the easy way out. Commitment is sticking up for each other even when at times everyone is taking sides against you.
Commitment is holding your wife's hand & telling her that though he can't help ease your pain, you just know that he is there to catch you on one of your lowest points in life.
Commitment is not being afraid to let the other show who you really are because you know that he'll accept you (because he has no choice -- hahahaha).
Commitment is being happy that you are forced to stick with one person for the rest of your life (especially the bad times).
Commitment is going to sleep every night without fear that you'll wake up the next day to find your partner gone.
I believe that this is one of the most important ingredients in marriage. Without it, why marry?
We are celebrating 5 yrs of married bliss today!!!! wooohooo!!!! |
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| Strengthen our Vows... |
| by [Jeanny] |
Commitment and Marriage
The word commitment is highly valued by couples who believe in the importance of marriage. As what my father said during my wedding" marriage is a very wonderful stage in life, filled with love and lots of commitment." I do agree with that. Loving and committing works side by side to make the blessed union successful.
Commitment in marriage is loyalty to your partner, or devotion or a dedication to the person whom you are united with. It is showing him/her that once you commit, you show what true love is all about
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| my Vitamin "C" |
| by [the voodoo doll] |
It's giving your 101% without complaining or asking anything in return. Doing things not only for yourself but for the relationship... Overlooking the weaknesses and building-up each others strengths... (Learn in the process of seeing the weaknesses... hehehe)
But to be honest, I/we never really had the chance to talk about the big C... but for me, committing is by opening up your world to each other... <*bow*> |
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| Let's Do It |
| by [MrsPartyGirl] |
The day my husband first proposed, I freaked out. In the days that followed, I must have turned down his proposals more than 30 times, the poor guy. To give him credit though, he didn't stop asking/pestering me. He was as sweet and understanding as the first time I said no, and that was the kind of perseverance, I was glad to realize, that I found so endearing. And medyo scary, come to think of it (not in a stalker kind of way, syempre. just the ball-and-chain kind of claustrophobic scary, you know what I mean!)
Even before I went into relationships, I knew I would only marry for love and live on commitment. Marriage was something I directly related to commitment, and if I could not commit, I might as well not get married at all. But I only had a vague idea of what commitment really entailed, and at that point I was sure I could never give up my personal freedoms. (It didn't help that I also equated marriage with fun going out the window.) Thus, moi freaking out.
It was a good thing he did persevere, because he got me thinking. Looking into his eyes, there was no mistaking he was very ready to take the plunge. He had spent much of his young adult life focused on furthering his career, as well as meeting family obligations. Now that he's done all that, he felt he deserved to find his own happiness. He travelled, had his share of here-and-there girlfriends, rock and rolled, and just stayed pogi. He said he never knew how much he craved the "tahimik life", until he met me. Ok, kinilig ako.
And I knew. This man would take care of me, fight for me, be happy for me when I succeed and support me when I fail, give me his ATM card without question, get along gamely with my weird relatives, put up with my hormonal imbalances, choose only me to become the mother of his children, accept me for who I am, and seduce only me for as long as we live. There was no question how deep this commitment ran, but it was clear and absolute. Suddenly, I was lucid. I knew then, as I know now, that I would do the same for only him.
That's when I said the 3-letter word that would forever bind us. A mature decision born from love, responsibility, courage, and dreams, and sealed with an ubreakable vow to each other and God.
Looking deeply into his eyes, gently extending my hand, I said: "atm"?
Joke! Of course, I said "yes". Two+ years and several hormonal imbalances later, we're still at it, and we're having fun. We might not have had a smooth journey but we're happy we have each other to hold on to when the bumps of life threaten to jog our helmets off.
That's it!
Btw, happy women's month to all the women :D |
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| Three Cs of Marriage |
| by [Irmee] |
When you got married, both of you made a commitment, not only to each other but also to God. Commitment to stay married and loving each other until one of you dies, not when one of the flame of love dies. To err is human, is what most people usually say to justify the infidelity or giving in to "temptations" of either one. These are the cases when the flame of love dies and we should seek the eternal flame which God provide, to keep the love burning.
We are always being tested or sometimes tempted, but we can keep them all in the mind and stay away immediately as soon as we feel that we are. Communication is very important. As soon as we are able to talk to our partners about the temptation, we are guiding them to keep the fire burning and urging ourselves to pray and ask for God's help.
Communication, Commitment and Conversation with God - a daily dose to a happy and fulfilling marriage. |
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i concur...:)